1. ISOLATE YOURSELF
It is time to find out who you truly are without the interruption of others. We spent most of all our time trying to measure up to people’s expectations of us that we forget we are living for ourselves and not others. So many times, we do things that others want us to do. So many times, we are simply unhappy with our lives because we are too busy trying to please everyone else, wanting other people to like us, to love us. Neglecting anything and everything that truly makes us happy at the core. Happiness is an inside job, so the focus should be, to release anything that negates your happiness. Within this isolation, you should also pay attention as to who within your circle, must go. As you go through this process you may feel a bit lonely, since; many of your current friends will have to be left behind. The only people allowed to stay around, or continue to be active in your life should be those that ADD to the quality of your life.
2. BECOME AWARE OF YOUR LABELS
YES. People have called you many things and I can bet you a million dollars that most of those things have been negative. Things such as bitch, slut, hoe, bum, loser, mean, self-centered, etc. A lot of those things that are said to us, affect us mentally, emotionally and eventually physically. This is going to be the most important part of your self-analysis, and if you are not honest with yourself it won’t work all the way. Once you identify all your labels, understand why such things are said about you. If you are happy with all that you hear, then there is no reason for you to become upset about anything any other person would say regarding you and your character. If you do have a problem with the way you feel, then work on rectifying the behavior that allows those people to label you. Once the action is fixed, your behavior will then be different and in terms you will feel much better about yourself and not associate your behavior with what people say. Once you accept how people insult you, it grows you.
3. ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS
What do I like? What do I dislike? What makes me happy? What makes me unhappy? Etc. These questions should bring about clarity and allow you to identify your triggers. If you are one of those people that is easily irritated as I was, ask why? Pay attention to things you do daily that do not add to your happy tank. Try your hardest to stay away from people and things you dislike. Until you can handle it, without getting you upset. The goal during this step, is to learn to master your emotions. Not allowing negative events to cloud your judgment of yourself and other people. Remember, everything you are today came from somewhere in your past, so one must go back into memory lane to fix the present time, to therefore be able to create an awesome future.
4. ASSESS YOUR PERSONALITY
As we all know. We all come from two different people. Both of our parents have very different genetic dispositions that get passed down unto us. Unfortunately, we do not get to pick and choose what our genetic personality will be. But one thing we can do is; pay attention to ourselves and fix the things that we do not like. Spend time with your parents and study them. See how happy they are and why? How they have handled stress throughout their lives. See where your personality traits stem from. Once you stablish that, the next step will be to work on refining that behavior. Once you refine the behavior, the act becomes different.
5. ACCEPT WHAT HAS CAUSED YOU PAIN
Is only through accepting it all that we make peace with the life we have chosen to live. Yes, some people experience more difficult things than others, it is all meant to strengthen, whether you believe it or understand it as such. Most of our pain is self-inflicted based on poor choices we make throughout our lives.
6. COMMUNICATE YOUR PAIN
Telling people how they have hurt you, releases a great deal of pain. The trick here is to let people know without blaming them. You must understand how if in any way you were a participant of it all and allowed the person to do to you, what it is normal to them. If you are having a hard time talking about it, then write the person a letter. And once you communicate it to them, LET IT GO!
7. CHANGE YOUR HABITS
It Usually takes at least 21 days of doing something consistently for it to become a habit. some people result to doing things that most likely make the problem bigger or create a whole other problem. Remember, habits cannot be changed, they can only be re placed.
8. LEARN TO MEDITATE AND PRAY
Meditation is when God talks to you. Praying is when you talk to God. Find a guided meditation audio on YouTube and sit still for about 15 minutes. Allow your thoughts to flow freely in your mind. The goal is to have no thoughts floating in your mind at all. That’s achieved with much practice. When you engage in prayer, DO NOT PLEA< DO NOT BEG> YOU DEMAND. You were created to Ask and Receive.
9. IMPLEMENT CHANGES IN YOUR DIET/EXERCISE
Think of your body as a high-end vehicle. Now, does a HONDA require the same type of Gasoline as a LABORGHINI? High-end vehicles usually require a more expensive, higher grade gas correct? For better performance and maintenance. If you put low grade gas in a high-end vehicle for a long period of time, there is a high possibility that the engine may get damaged, right? The better the food you put in your body, the better you will feel, the better your mind perform.
Take Care Of Yourself and Each Other,